The Dangers of Disney

Barbie needs to wear an Abaya. The Little Mermaid needs to cover her midriff. And Princess Jasmine sure ain't in Arabia if she's dressing like that. The Bratz dolls need to stop dressing like street walkers. Miley Cyrus needs to put some clothes on and Lady Gaga should be locked up.

Starting from a very young age, girls are exposed to poor female role models. From all the Disney princesses littered in movies, to the pre-teen singing sensations, to the clothing companies that purposely market adult clothing to tweens...are girls getting any positive messaging from the media? They are certainly not. Thanks to our hypersexualized society and images of sexuality flooding our televisions, music, and clothing companies, positive images are rare to find.

It all starts with the problematic Disney princesses that we think are innocent. Yet when you dig deeper into these princesses you realize that there are many dangerous commonalities: the way they dress is scandalous; they all have super skinny, big busty figures; the princesses are all motherless and only find happiness when they find their prince charming; they are all from broken homes; etc. Another commonality is that they have a very masculine and macho man rescue them and after getting married, live in wedded bliss. Oh really, come on. Give women a little more credit than that! No where in these movies will you find a self-assured, head strong princess! Yet that's what we are wanting our girls to be.

And then there's parents allowing their daughter to dress up and act as if they were a princess! Three year old girls wanting to wear heels and tutu skirts, and lipstick and nail polish. It's dangerous to allow girls to experiment with these things when they lack the cognitive skills to understand what makeup and clothes truly are. Because what happens more often than not is that they associate outer appearance with inner acceptance. And since research indicates that the term "self-esteem" isn't wholly understood until around age 7-8, allowing girls to experiment with their beauty is detrimental. So really, I will never allow my daughter to wear makeup even once a year on Eid. Why do parents allow that? Girls should be noticed for their personality and intelligence, not for their faces and dresses.

Head to a mall and you'll see where the dangers continue. Have you noticed clothing stores selling "junior versions" of their clothing? For example, La Senza Girl? Abercrombie and Fitch selling sizes that only tweens would fit into? The sickness of American Apparel ads? And ad after ad using sexual innuendos to sell clothing, makeup, perfume, etc. Girls are expected to be skinny and dress scandalously. To have flawless skin and airbrushed makeup. And let's not forget the message boys are getting about girls. No wonder so many boys have little to no respect for girls.

It scares me to think about having my own daughter in the future and having to raise her in a world such as this. Me and the future half of my deen already agree that Disney cartoons will be banned from our house. Teen singing sensations will be silenced. True role models, modesty, and an analytical eye to the media will the focuses of what we teach our daughter.

Mothers play a critical role in their daughter's trajectory of how they respond to media pressures. Apples often don't fall far from the tree. I remember growing up and how I was never allowed into my parents' bedroom where my mom had her dresser for perfume and makeup. Hence I never saw her beautify herself in any way, and therefore, I was not the "girly girl" so many moms seem proud of. Daughters shouldn't be exposed to these without having things explained to them. They're too young to make sense of what they see. So while a little lipstick, heels, and nail polish at the age of 4 may seem like a harmless dress up activity, why on earth are you letting your daughter strut around like that?

We truly need to save our girls. And I don't mean protect, I mean arm them with the knowledge and power they need to make sense of the messy world around them. Talk to them, often, and guide them in analyzing what they see rather than accepting it for face value. NO - love isn't about finding prince charming and him rescuing you. NO - you don't need to show off your body to "find" that someone. NO - you shouldn't have to compromise any of your core values and beliefs to be accepted in this world.

Because at the end of the day, makeup washes off, nail polish cracks, and clothing will wear out. But it's our souls that endure, and that's what we need to work on.

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  1. Tears..the end was so touching! Yes it is sad how many of us have become brain washed sheep! Hollywood, movies, media, and music seems are run by the devil himself. They teach us that woman is an object, even disney. The maker of disney is a 33rd degree mason. Disney is filled with witchcraft and aladin worship jinn, evil spirits, like madonna and kabbala.. the elites run our TV, and want us this way, want to keep our minds busy and fight among each other so they can continue to run our world and enslave us

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    1. Well said Muslim Brothah! An important skill for the 21st Century is that of analysis. Never accept what the media says without weighing things in your mind. It's not about being suspicious, but about being smart. We don't want to turn into a bunch of drooling TV watching media addicted zombies!

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