Showing posts from January, 2012

Religious Pride and Prejudice

And, indeed We have sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad(P)); of some of them We have related to you their story and of some We have not related to you their story, and it was not given to any Messenger that he should bring a sign except by the Leave of Allah. So, when comes the Commandment of Allah, the matter will be decided with truth, and the followers of falsehood will then be lost. (Qur'├ón 40:78)

Without fail, if I tell people that I am half-Iranian and half-Pakistani, I get this question:

"Oh, so are you Shia or Sunni?"

And this is my question right back at them: does it really matter? 

Apparently to some Muslims, it does, and to a point where non-Sunni Muslims are discriminated against. And not just discriminated behind their backs, but to their face when they're told that they're not "real" Muslims. Did you know that there is a verse in the Quran telling us that this is none of our business?

Surely they who divided their religion into parts an…

Our Journey

It's really challenging to put into words the journey we've had so far. Similar to the first time we went for a walk and fell in sync with each other's footsteps, so too are the footsteps we've left on this snowy path. Symmetry, harmony, and balance. Peace and bliss. Each one completing what was missing and adding something more. The path so far has been made easy by the will and grace of Allah, and for that we are always grateful, never taking a single day or moment for granted. From the first time we both prayed for guidance as we moved forward, to the prayers today in which we continue to ask for blessings. We've walked on many a path during our short time together, reflecting on the beauty of prayers being answered and the events of destiny unfolding before us. I now take time to cherish the smallest things I may have previously taken for granted: a beautiful pink sunrise, the cloud line on a Chinooky day, and the way long grass ripples with the wind blowing th…

Why Zumba ain't Haram

So apparently, Zumba has been added to the list of prohibited (aka haram) things within Islam. Alongside eating pork, drinking alcohol, and gambling. 
Well, that's the word among some Muslim families, as parents continue to tell their daughters that they can't participate in Zumba class with other females because it's haram. And when you dig a little deeper, it's because the class encourages girls to "shake it" and the music elicits emotions that should otherwise remain suppressed.

Wait, are we talking about Zumba?

I've done a few Zumba classes so far, and it does everything BUT elicit emotions. The class is so fast paced, cardio-packed, and thinking on your feet and trying not bump into your neighbour choreography infused...there's no time or space to think or do anything else. And you're in a class full of women. By the end of our class last night, we were drenched in sweat, rosy cheeked, and trying to catch our breath. We then quickly did wudu…

On Marriage

I'm not sure if I'm the only one who has noticed, but I haven't been blogging as much in the past few months! It's not that I don't want just feels like I've had bloggers block. Even with the posts I've published, they read as substandard entries to me. Blahhhhhhh!

But I think I've figured out why. It's because I haven't been blogging about what I really want to.

And that's about getting married.

If you've read my entries over the past year and a half, you'll know that marriage was a big topic for me. Not in the "marriage prep" realm, but in the "O Brothah, where art thou?" kinda way. SubhanAllah I look back and think that God and God only could have caused my life to change so dramatically. So Alhamdulillah, now that the brothah of my destiny has materialized according to Allah's will, I've been wanting to blog about the journey I'm about to embark on. About preparing to be married.

Notice th…

A Simple Conversation

I recently stumbled across an article about American Muslim couples who are going through divorce. As statistics also indicate that divorce rates in Muslim communities are growing (but are still not as high as national averages), this article is quite timely. Not only in the fact that it breaks down the most common concerns for divorcees, but it should also get us thinking about what we can do (as much as we can obviously) to prevent divorces from happening in the first place.

Within this article was a startling statistic that one third of women interviewed admitted to being domestically abused in some manner, whether it was physical, emotional, or sexual. While domestic abuse is rampant in society as a whole, it is even more of a taboo to talk about this issue within our community. Yet advocacy and awareness are key in preventing these numbers from rising.

And it's not solely the divorce rate that is of concern in the Muslim community. Domestic abuse. Cross-cultural parenting. R…